Respected Nollywood actress and screen legend, Tina Mba, has issued a powerful piece of advice to women in the Nigerian film industry: never sacrifice your career for a marriage rooted in insecurity or control.
Speaking candidly on a recent episode of Lights, Camera – It’s My Turn, the award-winning actress reflected on her own journey as a professional and a mother, urging female actors to remain true to themselves and not let societal expectations or unsupportive spouses derail their ambitions.
“He Met You an Actor, He Married You an Actor”
Tina Mba, known for her roles in King of Boys, The Set Up, and numerous stage productions, drew from personal experience as she addressed a growing concern among young and established actresses: balancing a career in entertainment with the pressures of marriage.
In her words, “He met you an actor, he married you an actor, there was no issue of you are going to leave this job because I am insecure or because we need to raise our children. No discussion or whatever.”
She continued, “Then you got married thinking that now you are going to fly, and then the man comes and tells you, ‘No, you’re going to sit.’”
Her comments have sparked wide conversation among her colleagues and fans, particularly in an industry where women often face pressure to abandon their careers for domestic responsibilities once they marry.
Red Flags Are Always There—Don’t Ignore Them
The veteran star, a mother of two, emphasized the importance of paying attention to early signs in a relationship. She warned her colleagues to be vigilant about the intentions and mindset of a potential partner, especially when it comes to career support.
“See, the signs are always there. Don’t ignore it. Watch him, watch her. You need to have a discussion with the person,” Mba advised. “If need be, you need to sign an undertaking that you would not make me leave my career. Because did he leave his job?”
Her tough but empowering message challenges the cultural narrative that a woman must compromise her professional identity to maintain a marriage. For Mba, the issue is not just personal—it’s about creating a healthier environment for women in Nollywood and beyond.
“Be an Antique Babe Like Me”
Known for her fierce screen presence and unapologetic authenticity, Mba also called on her peers to redefine what they look for in a life partner.
“Marriage is important,” she acknowledged, “but nobody put a gun to my head or to your head to do it. There are so many people in this world. If this didn’t work, another may work. You will meet a soulmate, someone who will be supportive. Just be true to yourself.”
In a characteristically humorous and empowering close, she added: “Don’t go for the dazzles. Be an antique babe like me.”
The Cost of Compromise in Nollywood
Tina Mba’s message resonates with many actresses who have quietly stepped back from the spotlight due to pressure from spouses, family, or societal expectations.
For decades, Nollywood has seen promising female talent fade into obscurity after marriage, while their male counterparts continue to thrive uninterrupted. Mba’s call to action encourages women in the industry to stop treating marriage as a condition for career survival and instead demand partnerships built on mutual respect and support.
Fans and Colleagues React
Mba’s remarks have already started generating buzz within the industry. Several younger actresses took to social media to praise her transparency and wisdom.
Actress Nancy Isime reposted a clip from the interview on Instagram with the caption, “Mama said it all. May we find partners who support our purpose, not stifle it.”
Another colleague, Uche Jombo, wrote on X (formerly Twitter): “Tina Mba is a real one. This is the conversation we need to keep having.”
Even fans outside the entertainment industry applauded her courage in speaking up, with many sharing stories of their own struggles with unsupportive relationships.
A Legacy of Integrity and Power
With a career spanning over three decades, Tina Mba remains one of Nigeria’s most respected thespians. She has worked in film, television, and theatre, consistently earning accolades for her powerful performances and professional discipline.
She has also raised two children as a single mother while remaining at the top of her field—a feat that underscores her authority when speaking on work-life balance and personal empowerment.
Mba’s legacy is not only defined by the roles she plays on-screen but also by the role she plays off-screen as a mentor, advocate, and voice of reason for women navigating fame, family, and fulfillment.
Final Thoughts
Tina Mba’s message is more than just a piece of advice—it’s a declaration. In a world that often forces women to choose between love and legacy, she offers a different perspective: one where purpose and partnership coexist, but not at the cost of one’s dreams.
As Nollywood continues to evolve and more women step into lead roles on and off camera, Mba’s words are a timely reminder that being true to oneself is the most powerful role any woman can play.
