Former Big Brother Naija star and thriving entrepreneur, Anita Natacha Akide, popularly known as Tacha, has once again captured the public’s attention—this time with her unfiltered take on love, dating, and the realities of living abroad. Speaking candidly on The Podcast Network on YouTube, the reality TV personality did not hold back, stirring debates among fans and critics alike with her bold opinions.
Redefining Modern Love
Tacha, who has built a strong brand for herself since leaving the Big Brother Naija house, urged young women not to rush into commitments or feel pressured by societal expectations about relationships. According to her, women must learn to navigate love with intelligence and strategy.
“You need three other boyfriends in your life… I’m not saying to sleep with all the boyfriends. But at least… You just never really know,” she said, a statement that instantly sparked online reactions.
She emphasized that women should remain open to opportunities and not restrict themselves prematurely. “Every girl should be single till they’re actually married… Don’t let your boyfriend stop you from meeting your husband,” she declared, drawing both applause and criticism across social media platforms.
Her message highlighted what many see as the double standards women face in relationships. While men are often allowed to explore multiple options, women are criticized for doing the same. Tacha challenged that narrative, insisting that women must be more strategic in their approach.
“The kind of grace that the guys have is not the same kind of grace that we have. So we need to be able to move differently,” she explained.
Life Abroad vs. Life in Nigeria
Beyond her views on love and relationships, Tacha also spoke frankly about her experiences living abroad compared to Nigeria. While many Nigerians dream of relocating overseas in search of greener pastures, she painted a more sobering picture of what life is truly like outside the country.
“As much as it’s hard here in Nigeria, it’s also hard. It’s even harder abroad, honestly,” she said.
Her comment resonated with many Nigerians who have faced challenges abroad, including loneliness, high living costs, and cultural isolation. According to her, the glamorous image many project online often hides the financial and emotional struggles they endure.
“A lot of people abroad do not want to come back because… people are going to say I went abroad and I couldn’t make it and then I came back,” she noted, stressing how pride and societal pressure keep many trapped in situations that are far from ideal.
Sharing her personal experience, she revealed how she had two pieces of luggage stolen in Paris, a reminder that life abroad can come with its own set of unexpected hardships. “People go through great pressure to give an impression that really, really does not exist,” she added.
The Value of Community
For Tacha, one of the greatest advantages of living in Nigeria is the strong sense of community and shared humanity that exists. She explained that while Nigeria has its challenges, the supportive social fabric makes daily life more bearable than the often-isolated experiences abroad.
“You can go to your junction and say, ‘Mama Ki, give me something of 7,000. By the end of the month, I’ll pay you.’ I feel like there’s a lot more to be happy and bright about over here in Nigeria than there in the UK,” she said.
This comparison sparked further conversations online about whether Nigerians undervalue the resilience, solidarity, and cultural warmth that their home country offers in contrast to the individualism often experienced in Western societies.
Encouraging Positive Change
Despite her criticisms of life abroad and her candid remarks on relationships, Tacha ended her podcast appearance with a call for Nigerians to channel their outspoken energy into constructive change. Known for her confidence and fiery personality, she urged her fellow citizens to use their courage and resilience as tools to reshape the country’s reputation and future.
“With how loud and how rugged they are, we actually should use that ruggedness to get what we want in the country. We can try to change it… It took a long time for us to get here. So it would take a long time to try to change the notion the world has about Nigeria,” she concluded.
Reactions and Cultural Impact
Unsurprisingly, Tacha’s comments ignited widespread reactions. While some praised her for speaking her truth and challenging outdated societal norms, others criticized her advice, arguing that promoting the idea of multiple boyfriends sends the wrong message to young women.
On Twitter, one user wrote: “Tacha is just saying what many women already know but are too scared to admit. Men date multiple people all the time, so why shouldn’t women have options?”
Another critic countered: “This is dangerous advice. Building stable families requires commitment, not three boyfriends. She’s glamorizing confusion.”
As for her comments on life abroad, many Nigerians agreed with her perspective. Several echoed her view that social media has painted an unrealistic image of life outside Nigeria, causing many to underestimate the challenges of migration.
“I’ve been in the UK for three years, and honestly, Tacha is right. It’s tough out here. People back home don’t see the reality,” one fan commented on Instagram.
A Voice That Refuses to Be Ignored
Love her or hate her, one thing is certain: Tacha has mastered the art of sparking meaningful conversations. Since her time on Big Brother Naija, she has built an unapologetic brand, consistently using her platform to challenge stereotypes and share perspectives that others may shy away from.
Her recent remarks are no exception. By boldly addressing gender inequality in relationships, the harsh realities of life abroad, and the need for Nigerians to take charge of their future, she has once again positioned herself at the center of national conversations.
As the debates continue online, one truth stands out—Tacha’s voice carries weight, and whether people agree with her or not, she continues to force society to confront uncomfortable realities.
