Kenyan-American music sensation and Afropop star Victoria Kimani has sparked widespread debate online after revealing that she has never been approached by Kenyan men for a romantic relationship. In a candid interview on the Box Pod series, the outspoken singer disclosed that the only romantic advances she has ever received in her home country came from foreigners, not her fellow countrymen.
Kimani, whose impressive career has taken her from Nairobi to Lagos and international stages, expressed her dismay at what she perceives as a lack of boldness and initiative among Kenyan men. She suggested that this hesitation might be rooted in fear, low confidence, or assumptions about her likely rejection due to her status as a celebrity.
“I don’t get approached in Kenya,” Kimani said during the interview. “Nobody approaches me, unless they are not from here.”
The singer, known for her vibrant image and unapologetic views, explained that it is not her unavailability or attitude that deters suitors but rather a cultural reluctance among local men to take the initiative.
“It’s like a lack of confidence or they just assume that I’m going to turn them down,” she said. “Or they just don’t know how [to approach me]. It’s like they lack game.”
Kimani added that while she has spent much of her career outside Kenya, especially during her time with Nigerian label Chocolate City, she always hoped that Kenyan men would feel proud enough to initiate connections with her, especially since she represents their culture and identity on the global stage. Instead, she said, it’s often foreigners—men from Nigeria, Ghana, the U.S., and Europe—who approach her when she’s in Kenya.
The “China Love” and “Safari” hitmaker didn’t stop at expressing her disappointment—she offered a few words of advice as well. According to Kimani, good grooming, respectful language, and confident communication go a long way when it comes to catching a woman’s attention.
“Men just need to be confident, smell good, and learn how to communicate properly,” she said. “Sometimes they use inappropriate language, and that’s what turns women off.”
Kimani stressed that it’s not always about money, status, or looks, but about effort, respect, and a touch of boldness. She believes many men disqualify themselves too early by assuming rejection, rather than making an effort to respectfully connect.
“You don’t need to be a billionaire or drive a fancy car. Just be real, respectful, and come correct. Women notice that,” she added.
Her comments have ignited a firestorm of reactions on social media, with users on platforms like X (formerly Twitter), Instagram, and TikTok diving into heated discussions about the dating culture in Kenya and beyond. Some netizens defended Kenyan men, claiming that many are simply reserved and respectful rather than lacking confidence. Others agreed with Kimani, stating that the fear of rejection or cultural conservatism often holds Kenyan men back.
One user wrote: “She’s telling the truth. Kenyan men are too shy or think being too serious makes them attractive. You have to show effort, bwana!”
Another countered: “Victoria Kimani is a whole celebrity. Most guys are intimidated by her status, it’s not just confidence—it’s self-preservation.”
While Kimani has kept her private life mostly away from public scrutiny, her name has frequently surfaced in relationship rumors. In the past, she has been romantically linked to Nigerian rapper Ice Prince Zamani and Tanzanian Bongo Flava superstar Diamond Platnumz. However, none of these alleged relationships were ever publicly confirmed.
Despite the buzz surrounding her dating life, the singer has always remained focused on her music and advocacy. A vocal champion of women’s empowerment, African identity, and artistic freedom, Kimani uses her platform to challenge social norms and start conversations, particularly about women’s place in African society and the entertainment industry.
Born in Los Angeles to Kenyan missionary parents, Victoria Kimani grew up between the U.S. and Kenya before launching her music career. She rose to fame after signing with Chocolate City in Nigeria, where she became one of the few Kenyan artists to break through the highly competitive West African music scene. Known for her versatility, bold lyrics, and Afro-fusion sound, Kimani has earned acclaim across the continent and beyond.
Her discography includes fan favorites such as Mtoto, Show, Safari, and Prokoto. She has also collaborated with artists like Sarkodie, Ice Prince, and Cassper Nyovest. In addition to her music, she has performed on global stages and represented African culture in major international events.
The singer’s revelations come at a time when more celebrities and public figures are discussing cultural dynamics around dating, love, and self-worth. Her comments also shine a light on the complex intersection of fame, gender, and relationships in Africa.
Kimani made it clear that while she may be a public figure, she still longs for genuine connection like anyone else—especially from people within her community.
“I love my country. I love my people. But sometimes I wish they’d see me not just as a celebrity, but as a woman too,” she concluded.
With her comments now trending online, it remains to be seen whether Kenyan men will take her words to heart. But one thing is for sure—Victoria Kimani has once again proven that she is not afraid to stir the pot and speak her truth, unapologetically.
As she continues to chart her path in music and beyond, fans around the world will no doubt keep watching her every move—both on stage and off.
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